Where Did the Character Go?
Perhaps I should have known…big sigh…silly me, I thought after the election SOME of this crazy would disappear, it continues. Many of you like me were probably pretty disgusted with the ugliness of the presidential campaign this year. This was definitely not the year I wanted to say I’m proud of the behavior of our nation’s prospective leaders. When I think of a leader, I value things like character, integrity, sincerity, trustworthiness, compassion, humility, optimism, enthusiasm, courage, vision and effective and appropriate methods of communication. Did your candidate possess these qualities? Do you possess these qualities? Do the folks in your life or in the relationships you have possess these qualities?
Well folks, it’s a long list and a tough one to live up to but how wonderful would it be if we all had the desire, drive, and motivation to aspire to these qualities in ourselves. For me, I crave these characteristics in my relationships and of myself. It’s difficult to restore faith if that trust has been broken. I’ve always loved what Dr. Seuss says…”Say what you mean and mean what you say.” I try and I pride myself on being honest perhaps because like many folks I’ve been lied to before, trust has been broken many times and it hurts.
So what’s a girl to do? How do you fix it? Can you fix it? I think it’s a rock solid conclusion that we can’t “fix” others and rightly so. Who can we fix? Hmmmm….who’s that person in the mirror…..O yes it’s me! Yep that’s right me, myself and I. That is who I am in charge of. That is MY responsibility. I can only model the behavior that I want to see in others and if they choose that path as well then boom…BONUS. If not that’s their choice. I know it’s hard, we all think we are right and they are wrong but actually that’s just our opinion and we have the right to OUR opinion, as do they.
Now…that doesn’t mean you have to tolerate bad behavior, or someone’s negative characteristics; that’s your choice. Sometimes if feels as if we are stuck dealing with it and if it feels that way to you, then construct an effective method of what works in how you deal with it. Again, it’s taking the reins of your life and letting go of the reins of everyone else’s life. Hard to do sometimes huh?
Great leaders don’t just happen overnight. Becoming a person of integrity is a process. Minding our own business and tending to the development of our character is a challenge. Last Sunday in Church, a reading from Thessalonians said: “We hear that some are conducting themselves among you in a disorderly way, by not keeping busy but minding the business of others. Such people we instruct and urge in the Lord Jesus Christ to work quietly and to eat their own food.” That was a profound statement for me and I find it hard to argue with the advice from the Bible, you know that book that has been around for centuries! This reading seems to sync perfectly with the German Proverb…“Sweep in front of your own door.” And with that, I say may we all have great brooms and the courage to be a better person tomorrow than we were today!
With love & acceptance of everyone’s uniqueness…………..Nancy